Has there ever been something in your life that you kept all to yourself? Did you keep it to yourself because you just wanted to, or because you knew that if people found out they would judge you? There are so many people in our world that hide huge parts of themselves because they are afraid of getting judge.

We all have something in mind that we want people to see us as. Rather if its the happy-go-lucky person with always a smile on, the beautiful smart girl who has everything together, or the jock that has all the ladies laying on them. But when it all boils down to reality, we all know that these things are only lables. The lables are our identity, but behind closed doors we all know what we truly face. Nobody ever really talks about who they truly are behind those closed doors in fear that nobody would ever understand. When in reality, all of us have been there at some point in our lives or will in the future.

Everyday we are surrounded by expectations. We have a checklist of acts we need to have crossed off by the end of the night to reassure ourselves that we have yet again fooled the world of being someone we are not. That checklist is nothing but an open wound being ripped open day after day. A wound that can only be healed by honesty. But the amount honesty are you willing to let out is how much your wound is able to heal. Its much easier to be the same person day after day, than to face a trial in life and being willing to admit you are falling apart. I beleive that sometimes the true issue is not being honest with ourselves. We can tell ourselves we are ok, than we can tell the people around us we are ok too.

As soon as we start to be honest with ourselves, making ourselves realize how much we truly are falling apart, than the truth begins to slip out to others. When that slips, it feels as though everything slips. However we should not be so afraid of slipping up, we should not be afraid of telling our friends that we are falling apart and that we need help. Should you tell everyone you know and make it this huge public issue, of course not but you should never be afraid of telling a close friend or two that your not ok.

But now this idea of looking perfect has become a huge issue. Everyone puts off this idea of being ok, so then everyone is afraid of showing they are hurting. They look at someone and think “well they have it all together so I cant let it out that I don’t”. When in fact that person most likely does not have it all together. Everyone is human and everyone has there times of pain. We need to open up and let people in, tell them your hurting. Once you do that everything will begin to change for the better.

It is time to forget about this checklist, take a few deep breaths and throw the fear aside. Lets be real here…no ones life is perfect.